Joe Loya

Now it's like, no, we share the same grief.

And more importantly, our anger is trying to disguise that wound.

So my dad has a wound.

I have the wound.

We have all these wounds from our childhood.

We're the same.

And when I had compassion for him, there was no need to forgive him at all.

I see.

And so when I tell people that, they say, have you forgiven your dad?

No, never.

I have compassion for him.

And another way to have compassion, a compassionate way to look at it was he may have socked me.

He may have choked me.

He may have done all those things, beat me with a bat, but I don't take it personally.

And people were like, how can you not take it personal?

It literally happened on your person.

And I get it because I didn't understand it before either.

When people would say that, I was like, it happened to your person.

How do you not take it personally?

And the way you don't take it personally and the way that helped me move away from, oh my God, he did all this thing to me, was that if you had lined up a hundred suns