Joe Navarro

The fact that we actually get to tell our story begins the process of psychological comfort. Now, in the end, I may have to abide by that because there's only so much money. And if it's not in the budget, it's not in the budget. But there may be some things that you can add to say, look, this is all we have at this time. But we're going to reevaluate this in three months.

And if we can then, depending on earnings, get you another $500 a month, we will do it then. We do it incrementally, but always thinking about what provides psychological comfort. Being harsh, being indignant, not being attentive to needs, wants, desires, and even preferences creates psychological discomfort.

And if we can then, depending on earnings, get you another $500 a month, we will do it then. We do it incrementally, but always thinking about what provides psychological comfort. Being harsh, being indignant, not being attentive to needs, wants, desires, and even preferences creates psychological discomfort.

As high as 22% of CEOs have narcissistic traits. Yes.

As high as 22% of CEOs have narcissistic traits. Yes.

Even though they account for 2% of the population, we will work with or for somebody like that. So what we have to keep in mind, well, what do we mean by narcissist? We're not talking about the person that looks in the mirror and likes to splash on cologne and comb their hair. This is a person that overvalues themselves but has to devalue others.

Even though they account for 2% of the population, we will work with or for somebody like that. So what we have to keep in mind, well, what do we mean by narcissist? We're not talking about the person that looks in the mirror and likes to splash on cologne and comb their hair. This is a person that overvalues themselves but has to devalue others.

This is the person who only thinks about themselves and doesn't care of what suffering or what's going on through your life. wants you to be loyal but is not loyal to you, is disinterested in your personal affairs but wants you to be interested in theirs. There is your malignant narcissist. Oh, and by the way, they inherently tell lies but expect you to tell the truth to them.

This is the person who only thinks about themselves and doesn't care of what suffering or what's going on through your life. wants you to be loyal but is not loyal to you, is disinterested in your personal affairs but wants you to be interested in theirs. There is your malignant narcissist. Oh, and by the way, they inherently tell lies but expect you to tell the truth to them.

Now, the effect is, well, if they're only 2% of the population, but we see them in a lot of corporations, we're going to work for them. Then how do we get along? Well, first is recognizing that they're going to devalue us. Now, sometimes they devalue you by not inviting you to meetings or sharing information, but many times it's by the way they treat you, yelling at you, being disparaging.

Now, the effect is, well, if they're only 2% of the population, but we see them in a lot of corporations, we're going to work for them. Then how do we get along? Well, first is recognizing that they're going to devalue us. Now, sometimes they devalue you by not inviting you to meetings or sharing information, but many times it's by the way they treat you, yelling at you, being disparaging.

I mean, I have some things that are horrific. So what do we do when we have... people like that. Number one is recognize what you're dealing with. And that's why I wrote the dangerous personalities, because I have these robust checklists in there, which have been tested many times. So you can see, oh, wow, out of 125 things, this person has 75 of these traits. You've got a problem.

I mean, I have some things that are horrific. So what do we do when we have... people like that. Number one is recognize what you're dealing with. And that's why I wrote the dangerous personalities, because I have these robust checklists in there, which have been tested many times. So you can see, oh, wow, out of 125 things, this person has 75 of these traits. You've got a problem.

But now here's the thing. When we live with somebody like this, let's say they can be very charming, but then they turn on you and they become who they really are. Then how do you deal with that? What I can tell you is that the arc of the trajectory does not favor you, that these individuals are so caustic, they're so toxic that

But now here's the thing. When we live with somebody like this, let's say they can be very charming, but then they turn on you and they become who they really are. Then how do you deal with that? What I can tell you is that the arc of the trajectory does not favor you, that these individuals are so caustic, they're so toxic that

that eventually they will victimize you physically, mentally, emotionally, physiologically, or financially. You'll be victimized. The question then is, and I tell this to a lot of executives who work for these individuals who they're bullied and this stuff is, how long are you willing to tolerate it? If you can set a number and say six months or a year, okay.

that eventually they will victimize you physically, mentally, emotionally, physiologically, or financially. You'll be victimized. The question then is, and I tell this to a lot of executives who work for these individuals who they're bullied and this stuff is, how long are you willing to tolerate it? If you can set a number and say six months or a year, okay.

But then do something, because you will pay a price. There's a great book called The Body Keeps the Score. The body will definitely keep the score. You will pay a price for being in the proximity of a toxic individual. And if you become that person's chew toy, you will suffer immensely. And so I say, you know, there's no pill to cure them. There is nothing you can do to make them like you.

But then do something, because you will pay a price. There's a great book called The Body Keeps the Score. The body will definitely keep the score. You will pay a price for being in the proximity of a toxic individual. And if you become that person's chew toy, you will suffer immensely. And so I say, you know, there's no pill to cure them. There is nothing you can do to make them like you.

Expect no loyalty. Try to get out as soon as you can. And that's the only advice that, you know, obviously I'm not a clinician, but I think most clinicians, if they're honest, will say, you got to get out of there. This is not tolerable.