John Assaraf

And it starts to percolate all these negative thoughts up.

So imagine that thoughts are just effervescent bubbles, positive or negative, empowering, disempowering, constructive or destructive, but they're just thoughts.

What if you could just be aware of the red, negative, disempowering thoughts and

And just observe them and go, keep going.

And what if you can just say, I'm choosing.

Now I'm going to be in a state of mindful awareness.

I'm going to choose what I want to focus on.

Now, you and I have thoughts, but we're not our thoughts.

But the thoughts that we grab onto and emotionalize and follow through on become dominant thoughts.

Most people's thoughts are 70, 80, in some cases, 90% or more negative, disempowering, destructive because of their childhood.

and their experiences.

Now, if you've been in the self-help world where you read positive stuff, you're around positive people, you've seen people overcome health issues, financial issues, business issues, relationship issues, whatever it is, you see that, then those possibility thoughts are there too.

But negative and positive are always there.

our strength comes from what is it that I'm choosing to latch onto and increase the amplitude of the vibration with my focus and attention.

So awareness is what gives us choice.

And the choice is what expands through our decisions.

So you're never going to be able to control 6,200 thoughts.

Your brain is naturally wired to find the negative for survival, safety, avoidance of pain or discomfort.

So it is a part of your brain you want to start loving.

Now, Barbara Fredrickson did some research many, many years ago, and it's now known as the three to one positivity to negativity ratio.