John Assaraf

And then there's the me that I see with all my fears and insecurities and fetishes and anything else that I have.

So my own identity of how I see me will determine what I do.

It'll determine how I think.

It'll determine what I expect.

It'll determine, you know, I behave consistently.

you know, without enormous amounts of willpower.

And so that's kind of like the identity piece.

And the question becomes, were you born with that identity or did you develop an identity?

And the answer is, well, I developed my beliefs.

I developed my fears.

I developed my confidence and certainty or lack thereof, my self-image, self-worth, self-esteem, right?

These are all part of identity.

And it

is a result of my parents, my teachers, my school, my experiences, the meaning I gave things.

That formulated this identity.

And then I behave in alignment with that identity.

And if I'm out of alignment, I have something called cognitive dissonance that happens in my brain.

And it realizes that I'm out of character.

And then I will self-sabotage or procrastinate my way back into the character and the results that I believe I deserve.

And so the question becomes,