John Assaraf

You know, when we see somebody else that maybe is achieving something we're not, and they're doing things we wish we could do, the question is, can I develop the identity that they have so that I behave like they do?

Can I take action in spite of feeling afraid?

Can I

I overcome obstacles and be bigger than the obstacle, you know, say the obstacle being bigger than me.

And the answer is yes, I can practice a new identity no differently than a basketball player practices free throws.

And with practice, we create permanent patterns.

Permanent patterns create what we do automatically.

It's called automaticity in the neuroscience world I come from.

Can I practice character traits so I become more like that?

Can I practice like a Hollywood actor practices a role until he becomes the damn role?

We can't tell that they're acting on TV or in their movies.

Well, can I practice a role that aligns more with the things I want to do, be, have, and experience so that that becomes the new default me?

That's growth.

become butterflies through the metamorphosis.

Why can't I metamorphosize into the character, the identity, the person?

Since every brain functionally works the same, since every brain operationally works the same, it's the software that is the identity.

I can upgrade my software no differently than I can upgrade my phone's software.

No different than I can upgrade my car's software.

So I am not my software.

And identity is part of software.