John Deloney

Everything is now on the table.

And so I want to pull a credit report and not just look at his account.

I want to see who he owes money to.

And I want you to pull your credit report.

And this is going to sound caustic.

I want you to pull a credit report on all of your kids using their social security numbers.

Because when people call into the show all the time and they don't realize how bad it is and people start gambling or people get in over the head and they pull a credit card out on their nine-year-old and use that social security number to get a quick thousand bucks here or a quick $2,000 there.

And so that will give you the big picture of who you owe to what.

who your family owes to what.

Hopefully you have nothing on yours and your kids have nothing on theirs and his is minimal.

And what this is, was a scared, embarrassed husband that took the easy way out and he is ready to stand tall, take his medicine and y'all can rebuild trust.

Worst case scenario is you're in a way bigger mess than you know yourself to be in.

But you can't go to an untrustworthy person and demand that now you be trustworthy and think you're going to get any sort of nervous system stability from that because they've proven themselves to be untrustworthy over a long period of time.

And so I need to see this stuff with my own eyes.

I want to applaud you for what you say you were calm so that he could feel safe enough to come forward.

I want to applaud you for being in control, feeling big feelings, but being emotionally mature.

But you don't owe him dishonesty either.

Okay?

You're right to be enraged.

You're right to be sobbing at the table because this man lied to your face and to the face of y'all's five kids.