John Deloney

And so you don't also owe him a silver platter that he can gently put out his receipts on.

And so what I, when I mean be, you're responsible for the emotional, like mature next right action.

That means I'm not going to hit him.

I'm not going to swear at him.

I'm not going to punch a hole in the wall.

Everybody deserves dignity and respect, but you you're dang well going to know I'm pissed off.

You're going to know that everything in my life, I'm questioning it now.

Right.

And you're not crazy and you don't owe him a false sense of yourself so that he feels comfortable coming forward with it.

Right.

That's not your responsibility to massage his ego through this also.

Yeah.

And Betty, that's a great point that George brings up.

You need to get really clear on your, what I call your or what statement.

Because if he looks across the table from you tonight and says, I'm not pulling a credit report and I'm not giving you access to this account, period.

You have to have your or what statement ready.

Or me and the five kids are going to my mom's house.

Or, well, okay, then I'll just have to live with it.

And you mentioned we have to fix this and stay together because we have five kids together.

I need you to say that's the picture y'all created.