John Delony

But when you say, I want a path back to trust, if she's interested in trusting you again, which A, she may not be, so this will clear up the whole thing, then she gets to decide, here's what it will take for me to trust him again.

And let me take it outside of your situation.

Somebody cheats on somebody.

What's the path back to trust?

I want you to get rid of your iPhone and I want you to get a flip phone.

I need for two months, I want to see all of your email codes, and we're going to share one single checking account.

And then you get to decide, whatever she lays out in front of you, am I going to walk that path or not?

And it's really that simple.

But here's what that does.

It forces her, and I have an emotional, like, it makes me feel icky, the phrase, you're not meeting my emotional needs.

Because that is an often 99% of the time.

It's an amorphous blob of goo.

Yeah.

That nobody, nobody can grab.

And it's her saying to herself, I'll know if this is okay to keep going forward because I'll feel a certain way.

And feelings are so all over the place.

Right.

And so I want her to be, and say that also, I need a path to your emotional needs and especially emotional wants.

She needs, and I say this a lot, like I think we overuse the word need a lot in relationships.

We're like, I need this, I need this.