John R. Miles
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
You don't have to make a vow.
You don't have to announce a new identity.
You don't even have to know what replaces it yet.
You only have to notice.
when the old pattern shows up again, and choose not to obey it automatically.
That's it.
The ending happens not in a single moment, but in a series of small refusals to keep carrying what's finished.
You pause instead of pushing.
You rest instead of proving.
You tell the truth instead of rehearsing the old line.
At first, it can feel uncomfortable, like stepping into space before you're sure the floor is solid.
That discomfort doesn't mean you're doing it wrong.
It means you're not numbing it anymore.
That is what a gentle ending feels like.
No drama, no collapse.
Just a growing sense that you don't need to live that way anymore.
And there will be days when you pick that weight back up.
That doesn't mean the ending failed.
It means you're human.
Endings don't require perfection.