John R. Miles

All right, let's talk about why we abandon ourselves in the first place and what it actually feels like when you finally stop.

Thank you for choosing PassionStruck and choosing me to be your host and guide on your journey to creating an intentional life.

Now, let that journey begin.

Look, nobody wakes up one morning and says, you know what?

Today, I'm going to throw myself under the bus.

It doesn't work like that.

It's death by a thousand tiny cuts.

You swallow one no.

You let one boundary slide.

You tell yourself, it's fine.

I'll deal with it later, about 400 times.

And then, on some random Tuesday, you look around and think, wait, whose life am I even living?

It still looks like your house, your job, your people, but it doesn't feel like you're in there anymore.

I've watched this happen to literally thousands of people.

And every single time, the same four patterns show up.

And this week, Susan Grau and Ann Libera basically held up giant neon signs pointing right at them.

all right let's just call this first one what it is fear of disappointing people and don't even try to act like this isn't you because i'm raising my hand over here too this is the one where you would literally rather chew glass than tell somebody no or let them down for five seconds you will cancel your own plans drain your bank account show up sick lie whatever it takes because god forbid somebody thinks

You're not nice or you're selfish or you're letting the team down.

That feeling in your stomach when you're about to say no and it feels like you're jumping off a cliff.

That's this.