John R. Miles

So how do we actually live this?

How do we stop being maladaptive in 2026?

It starts with a social audit.

If your brain only has 150 slots for real nuanced human beings, who is currently squatting in your mental village?

Is it a toxic influencer whose outrage you've unconsciously adopted?

Is it a distant acquaintance from a job you left five years ago?

This weekend, I want you to sit down with a piece of paper or your notes app

and be brutally honest.

Map your actual circles, your inner five, your 15, your 50, and your full 150.

If someone doesn't belong in that 150 anymore, you have to move them from connection to ghost.

This is something I also talk about in my book, Passion Struck,

When I talk about doing a mosquito audit, getting those bloodsuckers, those invisible suffocators, those pain in the asses out of your group of 150.

Because when you prune the outer noise, mute the feeds, unfollow the accounts, step back from the digital groups that drain your battery without ever nourishing your soul, you start realizing this isn't about being mean.

It's about biological survival.

You're clearing the land so something real can actually grow.

Once you've cleared the noise, the next move is to protect the inner rings.

We've all done it backwards.

We give our best energy to the global audience and hand the leftovers to our inner five.

I want you to flip the script in 2026.

Make the walks, the 30-minute calls, the dinners with your five and your 15 non-negotiable.