Jonathan Fields

So what if the feeling you have been explaining away for years, not anger, not crisis, just kind of like a low ambient weight, is actually a rarely talked about form of resentment?

The kind that you're never supposed to actually admit that you're feeling in polite company or even in your closest relationships.

So you pretend it's just not there.

But that doesn't stop it from weighing you down and filtering into nearly every part of your life.

That's what we're talking about today.

In this episode, you'll discover the five territories where what I call diffuse resentment most reliably lives and how to see it, why midlife is where the weight often gets heaviest, and why it often intensifies at precisely the moment when things appear on the outside to be amazing.

And then I'll share two critical shifts to begin surfacing and then dealing with this feeling so you can start to climb out from under it.

I'm Jonathan Fields, and this is Good Life Project.

And we'll jump right in there after this short break.

So I want to start with something that took me longer to see clearly than it probably should have, which is I find the most useful category of story to tell.

So for a stretch of several years, years that kind of looked from the outside, like it was a pretty good run.

I was carrying something that I just couldn't quite name.

And the work was going well.

Relationships in my life were by any honest measure good.

I had things I cared about, people I loved, days that were full of work that matters to me.

No, all of that was true.

I checked those boxes and underneath it all, there was kind of like this hum.

It wasn't depression.

I know what that looks like.

And this wasn't it.