Jonathan Fields

This is something much bigger that's happening.

We just maybe been calling it by the wrong name.

It's an interesting word for what you just described, because when you talk about homesickness as a sort of a condition, you're not using it in the way that most of us would use it or have thought about using it.

How is it different than what people describe in 30s, 40s, 50s, calling things like empty nest, midlife crisis, just being tired after so many years?

How is this different?

I want to drop into a number of the elements of what you just said.

But I want to make sure I'm also really clear on what the dilemma is here.

Because it sounds like what you're describing is sort of an experience of relational dislocation.

The relationships that used to anchor us are getting renegotiated at the same time.

Like everything all at the same time.

And the feeling that it produces...

is us just being wildly unmoored.

You could say homesickness.

Even when you're sitting in your own kitchen, you could describe it as just feeling like you're... I mean, to me, it feels like there's no ground beneath my feet anymore.

And then you invite us to say, well, there's this thing called ritual.

And these things have been around from time immemorial.

And they speak to this feeling in a really powerful way.

But

Maybe the rituals that got us here aren't the ones that are going to get us there.

Yeah.