Jonathan Haidt

So when a girl first menstruates in many cultures, other women will come in and take her and train her in the secrets of womanhood of our culture.

And same for boys, boys, there's no marker like menstruation, but at a certain age, the boys are taken away and now they're socialized by men, often kind of brutally, often it's like a fraternity initiation, there's pain, there's all sorts of things, but then they turn into men.

And we kind of stopped doing that a long time ago, but we still had kids exposed to other adults.

When I was a kid, I did Boy Scouts.

There was a track coach.

We're exposed to other adults.

You go, you help the neighbors, you do all sorts of things.

In the 90s, we freaked out because some of those adults were sexually abusing kids and some of those institutions were covering up for them.

So I understand the reason for the freak up, but we vastly overreacted.

And we said, never let our kids near other adults.

And men especially know, do not interact with children.

If a kid's in trouble, like even so like, whoa, you know, someone's gonna.

So we kind of create an environment in which children used to be raised within a community.

And we said, how about no more?

How about you raise your child in your house with a phone, I'll raise my child in my house with a phone and a computer and a television screen?

Well, that's right, that's right.

So to return to Gary's question, who's responsible for leaving us out?

I think we have to understand that our society has changed in ways that are pushing us all to do this.

I don't blame the helicopter parents.

If you do let your kid out, some other helicopter parent might call the police because no one has seen an unaccompanied child since 1992.