Jordan Harbinger

The next day, I told Max about Bob's wife being jealous.

We both agreed Bob didn't seem capable of doing anything inappropriate, and that the concern seemed misplaced.

And then, that Friday, Max had to leave early for a doctor's appointment, so I joined Bob for lunch, and he opened up about a serious conversation he had had with his wife.

He shared that he had lost his sense of self over the past three years, felt deeply unhappy, and was dealing with depression and anxiety.

Oh man, poor guy.

And now he's hanging with you and feeling things again and he's like, I'm in love with you.

You hate to see it.

I listened, offered empathy, and shared relatable experiences.

Time flew by and after over an hour, I said I needed to leave.

As we walked across campus, Bob stopped me and said there was something else he wanted to discuss.

No, no thank you.

He said we'd become friends and asked if I agreed.

I said yes.

Then he shared that the past few weeks had been eye-opening, that he felt we connected deeply, that we were very similar, and asked if I felt the same way.

I was shocked.

When he clarified that he felt attracted to me, I immediately shut it down.

Yeah, I love that he had to clarify that he had a massive crush on her.

Like after this whole monologue, he still had to be like, just to be clear, I'm super into you and I want to get into those pantalones.

I reminded him that we are both married and asked what had made him think that I felt the same.

He said it was because I was kind and wanted to connect.