Jordan Harbinger

I explained that this is simply who I am with everyone at work.

Okay, so pause for a second.

I find this problem so interesting slash exasperating.

This is something so many women talk about, and I completely get it, how men interpret even basic kindness as flirting.

And I kind of get it.

I think that women sometimes don't fully appreciate that we're generally not used to women being super nice and approachable, which, to be fair to women, might say...

more about a lot of men, frankly.

And so it can be hard to interpret the signals when a woman is actually kind.

And maybe there's an argument to be made for women being a little clearer in communicating their kindness.

Although, I don't know, I'm not sure it's really on them to do that.

Equally true is that men need to be better at deciphering signals and really making sure that a woman is actually freaking flirting before you tell her that you have a massive crush on her and you want to leave your wife or something.

Come on.

Especially in a work setting.

especially when both parties are, yes, working together and married.

God, geez, man.

The stakes are high, and he just threw it out there.

At the same time, though, I think we men really need to understand that a woman's kindness, having fun with her, laughing, that just does not automatically equal, hey, she's so into you, bro, or even that you should be into her.

There's a whole other awesome arrangement with this, and it's called friendship, okay?

And I get it, the heart wants what the heart wants, but some of these people be the Lulu.

But also the heart needs to make sure it's wanting the right things.