Jordan Harbinger

Wow, okay.

This is behavior I would kind of expect from a preteen.

It's strange to me.

Anyway, so I'm a little torn here.

If his mom were an awful person, if there were a bunch of other people who could help her, I'd feel more comfortable telling him to tell her, hey, sorry, mom, you got to figure this out.

But she's a decent person.

They have a good relationship.

She's clearly struggling.

Yeah, cancer notwithstanding, that is not okay.

So here's my feeling about all this.

I think you need to find a middle way here.

And that middle way, it needs to help your mom get through this chapter, and it needs to move you closer to prioritizing yourself and your family.

You guys are stepping into a new life phase.

It's a beautiful life phase.

It's not really healthy or appropriate to be living with your mom if you don't absolutely have to.

I think the question you need to ask yourself is, what is a fair role, a sustainable role that you can play in your mom's life without compromising your sanity and your family?

Because there's a lot you can do for your mom.

You can help her navigate housing, treatment, doctor's appointments, logistics.

You can help stabilize her finances again.

You can help her find another apartment.