Jordan Harbinger

I should do something about that.

No way.

This is going to be a problem in their marriage if they don't figure this out, which I think he probably knows already.

So I'm sorry you're in this position, bud.

I know it's really hard, but this is also a great opportunity to find a new way with your mom, with your entire family.

I want to say something that might sound a little mean.

It's not my intention, I promise, but the picture you've painted here, I get the sense your mom is a bit of a mess.

And I'm sure her parenting played a big role in your brother's outcomes.

You seem to have charted a very different path, which, like I said, is hugely impressive and beautiful.

And I feel it's very important for you to protect this life you've built and not allow your family to drag you down.

I'm not telling you to disown them.

I'm not saying you shouldn't help them appropriately where you can, but the housing is almost the least of it.

What's really at stake here, I think, is your independence, your identity, your momentum, your new family, all of which need to be your top priority.

So my strong advice is to keep your eye firmly on those things and trust that you're not a bad person for not wanting to compromise them in order to save people who cannot or simply will not save themselves.

Sending you, your mom, your wife, and your new baby a big hug and wishing you all the best.

You know who else wants to live with you rent-free?

If not in your home, then at least in your head.

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