Jordan Harbinger

The big one for me is when you told your mother-in-law not to call your son names and she cried and redirected and sort of blamed you.

Crazy response.

And how she never takes accountability for things.

That's pretty textbook.

That's like covert narcissism for people who don't know what that is and think that it's only grandiose narcissism.

This is kind of the covert narcissism element here.

Other details...

Maybe narcissism, maybe something more like presumptuousness, disrespect, tone deafness, lack of empathy.

But whether your in-laws live up to some clinical label, everything you're describing, the yelling and the spanking especially, it's obviously very concerning.

Sounds like you have some real data points here, your own observations of your in-laws, your child's reactions around them, your mother-in-law's own admission about shouting, your husband's behavior with your son, his stories about his father's abuse, his sister's account of their grandparents' abuse.

I mean, your mother-in-law has straight up said, you should spank your kids.

We did it to our daughter when she was not even a year old.

Ten out of ten, do recommend.

Yeah, right.

They wouldn't hit your kid because our grandparents didn't hit us.

They only hit their own kids, meaning our parents.

Yeah.

So you have real evidence that they'd be impatient and shouty at best.

And at worst, yeah, they could hit your kids.

Not for an extended period of time.