Jordana Abraham

looking to get your perspectives on a potentially iffy first vacation with my new boyfriend here are the details i am a 35 year old female my boyfriend is a 41 year old male we met on hinge and have been dating for seven months total four months officially boyfriend and girlfriend we are both looking for long-term relationships and want to have kids i haven't had many boyfriends and this is my first official relationship in nearly five years so it's feeling very new to me she's

out she's out of the cocoon she's here she's here love it meanwhile he has had a handful of long-term relationships slut things have been doing or not or opposite of slut oh yeah right yeah things have been going great lots of healthy communication about how we are both feeling and he's a total sweetheart i'm crazy about him and already feel he very much could be the one oh

We recently went on a week-long vacation to Morocco together.

It wasn't a relaxing vacation.

We were doing heavy sightseeing and day trips.

It was exhausting for sure, but we both like traveling this way and planned it together.

I had very high expectations for this trip.

I hoped it would be filled with romance and intimacy.

We haven't said I love you to each other yet, but I am in love with him and wanted the trip to bring us at least closer to verbalizing these feelings.

I am too afraid to say at first, I know, I know, I'm sorry.

Don't be.

But that is not what happened.

I felt he was exhausted most of the time and our meals together were often a mixture of small to medium talk and phone time.

Even when I tried to steer things deeper, I don't feel he made any real effort to make conversation or create romance when there was an opportunity for it.

For example, sunset dinners, waking up to see the sunrise, stargazing, etc.

Nothing went wrong per se.

There were no fights or tension.

He was affectionate and we had sex almost every day.

It just was not the explosively romantic and emotionally bonding trip I had hoped for.

I found myself analyzing every moment, anxious the whole time about how the trip was going.