Josh Clark

But it's all just kind of built on, you know, shaky ground because it's going to happen again because it's impossible for that person not to let the person with BPD down again.

Well, that is a big problem with not only getting treatment but seeking treatment.

Because when your brain is structured in a certain way, and ever since you were a little kid, you've just responded a certain way to things.

Even if people around you are telling you that is messed up or that you're being hostile or whatever, to you, that's normal.

That's natural.

So it's really, really hard to interrogate your own behavior, let alone change it, because it seems normal and natural to you.

It's not that you need to change your behavior because you chased somebody away.

It's that that person left you and now you need to go get them back.

So, even if you have people around you telling you, it's going to take a lot of emphasis, repeated, constant emphasis that what you're doing right now is abnormal and harmful and you need to go get help for this.

That's one of the curses of it.

They can't see it.

At least if they can see it, most of the time they can't.

Yeah, and that's kind of what you're going to learn in DBT, which, again, is the gold standard for treating BPD, is that you're going to be taught these skills, how to deal with –

disappointment with being let down with somebody not responding to your text, you're going to learn a different set of skills on how to deal with that, both internally and externally.

And one of the things that kind of differentiates DBT from other kinds of behavioral therapy is that there's group sessions

But it's not a group session that, you know, you've seen in a movie.

Like my niece Mila was in a movie called No Exit, and it featured a couple of group sessions.

I think you can still see that on Netflix.

But it's not like that.

It's more almost like a classroom instead.