Josh Clark

They're fearful of rejection or abandonment.

The tragedy of the whole thing is that their behavior almost inevitably guarantees that they will be rejected or abandoned by the people around them.

One of the other things that is difficult to deal with when you're an FP is that person wants you all to themselves.

They're threatened very much by other people.

So they will try to isolate you from your other friends and your family.

So that they have you all to themselves, not just for time.

I'm sure time is a big part of it, but also to cut down on any, I guess, rational explanation or rational points from those other people.

Like, what are you doing?

Why are you putting up with this?

Isolating them would help cut down on that, too.

For sure.

It can happen.

It can turn on a dime.

And the other problem with it as well, Chuck, is that the person with BPD almost invariably immediately regrets doing that.

And so they'll make every effort to try to win the person back, which probably feels pretty gross for the F.P.,

Right.

And they'll say things like, I'll never do that again.

Like they know what they've just done is worth regretting, is worth feeling horrible about because they've just been abandoned or rejected.

They just did it to themselves.

So now they're trying to fix it or mend it.