Josh Clark

So they're kind of open for suggestions, basically.

Yeah.

Oh, geez.

That came out of left field.

Yeah, and I don't think you even trust that person.

That's the person you've come to find you can lean on the most, I think.

But, yeah, the FP, for those in the know, the favorite person, is very frequently –

Somebody who is willing to kind of go along with this at least for a while.

There's a ton of flattery and admiration and praise and all of your greatest points are pointed out all the time.

But you're also in real danger of...

letting that person down and facing that wrath of rage or anger or hostility.

And if you come back for more, you're going to find that you as the favorite person might start altering your behavior to fit the person with BPD's behavior.

So you might start considering them when you're making plans like, oh, we can't go out of town this weekend because our friend with BPD was going to, you know, wanted us to come out for their party.

Sunday picnic or something like that, right?

Like you would be afraid to not go to their picnic.

And you generally end up feeling like you're walking on eggshells.

And it's a codependent relationship that evolves.

The favorite person seems to be the person who's willing to take it the longest or the most and that it's not a permanent thing.

Thing.

Typically, people get burned out on it and eventually abandon the person with BPD, which is, again, at the root of what they are fearful of.