Julia Shaw

And I think, again, some research on bisexuality, so I'm bi, has also found that people who are bi are more likely to be in non-traditional relationships.

And one of the reasons for that is probably also because we constantly get asked to justify our sexuality as well.

And so if constantly you're being asked if one person's enough for you, if one gender's enough for you, if you're in a relationship with one person, for example, you know, if I'm in a relationship with a man, do you miss women?

And it's like, I don't ask you that if you're in a relationship with a woman, do you miss women?

Like, you probably do.

But that's just other woman than your partner.

It has nothing to do with being bi.

And so I think there's this...

constant barrage of questions of what does it mean?

Is it real?

How do you choose?

What does a relationship look like?

Do you constantly want threesomes?

There's this constant hypersexualization also, especially of women that we find in the research that can also lead to really negative outcomes for mental health and for things like risk of sexual violence.

But on the other hand, you've got bisexual people themselves saying, yeah, but I feel like I also have the superpower that I can love more widely and gender doesn't really matter in terms of whom I'm capable of loving.

And so relationship structures almost come with that conversation.

It's not that we need to be non-monogamous or that we need to be in these kinds of relationships.

It's more that I think if you've engaged so deeply with your sexuality, partly because society has forced you to, then you're also going to be thinking about relationship structures more generally and going, actually, I'm going to choose this one.

Or thinking they're lying.

So with men... So I wrote a book called Bi, The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality.