Julie Holland

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I think Stephen Covey in his book, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, gave to me the best example of this.

And he talked about imagine two circles, right?

There's a big circle and within it there's a small circle.

And the big circle is your circle of concern.

Everything that you possibly are concerned about or care about.

The small circle is your circle of influence.

And the idea is you would want to spend more time in your circle of influence.

Obvious, right?

But the thing that he said that really opened this for me was he said, the more time you spend in your circle of concern, but not your circle of influence, your circle of influence shrinks.

And the more time that you spend in your circle of influence, the more it grows.

And that to me really put all this into really clear state that like this concerning myself with all the problems of the world wears me out and I don't do anything.

Whereas if I'm taking clear, targeted, positive actions.

It feeds you.

And I'm going to be more effective if my true concern is less suffering in the world.

It's such common sense, but not common practice.

You know, when I was in recovery, we used a phrase and listeners of the show are probably tired of it by this point, but it illustrates exactly what you said, which is sometimes you can't think your way into right action.

You have to act your way into right thinking.

Yeah.

Yeah.