Julie Menanno

Oh, yeah, yeah.

I follow him on Instagram.

He's great.

Oh, for sure.

Yes, totally.

Yeah.

I think any kind of self-knowledge like that, you know, as long as people aren't using it to kind of pathologize themselves, but I think it's great.

That's why I do what I do with attachment theory is help people have these labels, not to kind of box them in, but to help them better understand themselves and, you know, what kind of work on themselves could be really useful.

Sure.

Attachment theory is basically a theory that says for two people to feel

safe with each other and close with each other we have to have these attachment needs be met and the more emotional expectation from the relationship the more attachment needs are there right so for you and i right now i mean we're we're assessing each other's safety you know not with words and not consciously but we're feeling we're you know our brains are going is this person safe is this person open to what i have to say is this person you know closed down and

if we really get more words to that operationally, it's, am I being understood?

Am I being heard?

Am I being responded to?

Am I being validated?

Right.

For example, if I were to say to you, well, I think autism is an overused word right now.

I mean, that's going to be hard for you because this label means a lot to you.

It has helped you in life to feel more secure and be able to communicate yourself and,

build safety with other people because you have a new way to make sense of behavior that maybe was sometimes pushing people away.