Julie Menanno

you know, you didn't call me back, but they're not really able to tap in and go, hmm, what about, what did that mean that I didn't call back?

What are the fears around not getting called back?

What happened in my life prior to this moment of not getting called back?

It's making this not getting called back such a big trigger or what unmet needs am I experiencing in the relationship that is leading to me to be so sensitive to not getting called back, right?

And then around that, there's a lot of emotions that aren't being talked about.

And they're not able to really get those hurt emotions healed because they're not able to put words to that and say to their partner, hey, you know, here's what's going on with me, right?

You know, when I don't get called back, it takes me to this...

bad place and I feel kind of ignored and I've felt that before and sometimes I feel like that in our relationship and I can I let it go let it go but then bam when you don't call me back and that person is now drawing their partner in more than just kind of going off and saying you never call me back you don't care about me and crying that's emotional expression it's not

So vulnerable though.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So then you start kind of having those wounds that are getting acted out.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Oh, for sure.

Yeah.

Okay.

So you dealt with that anxiety by just kind of turning it off.

Right.

And what helped you kind of get more in touch with that deeper stuff so you were able to start communicating in new ways?