Julie Menanno

So my job is to go in and stabilize that.

the problem between the two of them and the personal stuff that is contributing to the problem between the two of them.

And I've yet to meet a couple where both partners weren't bringing their own stuff to the table.

It is, yeah.

We interact with other people emotionally very similarly to the way we interact with ourselves emotionally.

You know, the problem with my perspective on that is I see the ones who are showing up to therapy.

But no, I don't see a lot of that.

I actually see guys who are actually very open to this work and willing to do it and willing to open up.

I also am trained to open them up.

So that helps.

But I think, you know, in the past, probably there's some truth to the fact that men had

A lot less emotional awareness, let's say 10 years ago, or awareness that emotional awareness exists, you know, kind of a thing.

So I think there's been a lot of dialogue that's been helpful.

But for the most part, I think what I see a lot of is women, sorry about that, men are aware they're emotionally unavailable.

Women think they're emotionally available when they're actually not emotionally available.

They're emotionally expressive, but there's a very big difference between emotional expression and emotional availability.

So I do see a lot of that.

The difference is people can can, you know, have all sorts of emotional affect and say things with passion and say, you know, I'm sad or angry or whatever and kind of like talk about their feelings.

But a lot of people have a hard time talking from their vulnerable feelings.

So they're not really they're able to know I'm angry and I'm sad because I'm