Julie Menanno

And then people start saying, well, we're just incompatible or, you know, we just fight too much.

And

Really, there's a way around all of that.

And that is just kind of dig in there and get to the root of the problem and help them start building actual safety and closeness via their communication.

They don't.

And they don't know what it is.

And they want to, you know, most people want to badly, but they just don't.

They don't have a way to make sense of it.

And that's what I do is I really start to help people make sense of the root.

Because once you can make sense of it, it becomes so much easier to treat it.

And that's what I love about attachment theory is it, you know, I think it's the closest science has come to really helping us understand what makes relationships struggle and what makes them thrive.

And this is parent-child and then romantic partners that you're going to use this theory for.

Almost always.

Yeah.

I mean, what happens is people kind of go into this relationships with poor relationships with themselves because our relationship with ourself is a template.

I mean, I'm sorry, our relationship with our earliest caregivers, you know, throughout life is going to create this template of our relationship with ourselves, which what does that even mean operationally?

I can explain that later.

And then we're going to take that stuff into a relationship with a partner.

They're going to bring their stuff in.

And now we're going to create problems between the two of us.