Justin Scott
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
That one moment comes.
And then he realizes his emotions are not instrumental to the relationship.
Usually this is when the trading starts.
You start negotiating with reality about, oh, OK, is this who I am or is this who I need to be to meet them?
And then once you get that little edging down, that little amputation, that little cutoff down, we send them into schools that also get them to measure themselves.
For instance, a high-schooling kid is instrumental to a school.
They wouldn't worry like that.
They would say high grades are instrumental to a school.
But that's because we've reduced the child to a grade.
And then once we get that down, person graduates.
And this is how you get a person with really good grades, but terrible social skills.
Because they didn't learn any selfhood.