Kaelyn Moore

Your husband seems traumatized by his own family, constantly anxious to be put in the middle and having difficulties navigating the situation and being fully on your side.

Was he the mediator of the family?

Does he show people pleasing tendencies?

I think he is very scared you will leave him and you are probably the only good thing he has.

The others are his toxic family that he cannot shake.

you guys should talk openly.

Definitely low to no contact with the family if your family is to have any chance of a chance to a happy future.

He should get therapy to loosen the enmeshment with his family.

And if he is open and not resisting, I also think you might be better off on your own.

Good luck to you both.

Enmeshment's a good word.

I think that is the word for it.

He's clearly like too enmeshed in his family.

I mean, the undying loyalty even when they say and do horrible things kind of fits into that.

But OP does respond and says he is the black sheep of the family for sure.

That's why I've been patient and understanding because I know the feeling of neglect and not being someone's priority.

But my patience is running out fast with the pace of the arrival of my baby.

I suddenly have more important matters to be understanding of.

My baby has not chosen to be born.

Yeah.