Kail Lowry

What boundaries do you have now that you didn't before?

What boundaries are you looking to build for the year ahead?

Why are they important to you?

And what happened that made you start implementing them?

This one's tough.

I want to learn to say no.

And I know that sounds so fucking cliche and like being a people pleaser or whatever, but like

I literally have created such a toxic cycle, never being able to say no to people.

And part of it is because like, that's my heart.

Like I want everyone to be happy.

But then on the other side of it is like, I don't also want to do things that make other people happy.

And then I'm upset because I wasn't able to say no.

And then I'm like, maybe I'm, I don't know.

I'm trying to think of an example recently.

Oh, I believe people pleasing is from trauma for sure.

I need to work on my boundaries in terms of like,

It's okay for me to tell someone no, and it makes them uncomfortable.

Like them being uncomfortable should not dictate my decision.

And that is what it boils down to, I think.

And that's what I need to get comfortable with is like, okay, and if they don't like that, that's for them to deal with.