Kail Lowry

But you have to put the work in regardless of what's going on.

It's just like, for me, narcissist, borderline or not, how much work am I willing to put in?

Even if I wasn't a narcissist, I was still going to have work to do because I had some stuff going on, right?

It was like, something's going on in here that if I don't deal with it, I'm going to be by myself or in another relationship that I might not be happy in or I might just be bouncing around and just like...

look at myself in the mirror and just like, you know, see the reflection again.

Like, wait, was you moving again?

You know what I mean?

I might start going crazy.

So, so I feel like I've kind of transformed my ego, like you said, into something that serves other people, including myself.

Right.

It still has to, I still have to get something from it, but like I get happiness from helping people.

Like there's people I talk to,

in 2021 when I first started doing my calls and stuff like that.

They were like completely broken, beat down, desolate.

I talked to one woman, she was like literally talking to me in her car on Zoom.

She had a black eye and strangle bars on her neck.

I was like, what happened to you?

Are you good?

She's like, no, no, yeah, he's in jail right now.

But I'm trying to build him out.