Kami Verney
Appearances
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
It was just so, when you plug something in and it just starts to work, right? It was like immediate. We kissed, we talked, we went on dates and it was like somebody was serving me everything I could have dreamed of on a silver platter. He was exciting and he wanted everything that I wanted on the timeline I could have dreamed of. like warped speed, let's get you married, let's get you pregnant.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
He wanted everything I wanted in the same exact timeline. And it was like a miracle. It was a miracle. I mean, I just couldn't even believe this was happening and how lucky was I. And then totally distracted from work and like so checked out. Like now I was dreaming of like – The wedding and the babies and like, this is really happening for me.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
So we, so here's the timeline. January, you know, December, you know, we kissed midnight. We were engaged in May, Memorial Day weekend in May. So not, and then we were married one, exactly one year after that.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
It was such a beautiful time. I have this beautiful memory of me nursing her in the middle of the night in a rocking chair and like peeking outside at the moon and like her finger holding my finger and
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
feeling like I don't even know what to do with all this joy like just this so much joy and I have the joy of Josh and I like sneaking in her room and watching her sleep and like you don't want to disturb her so it's like mission impossible like you don't want to wake the baby but just like
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
Sometimes baby sleeps with their little butts in the air and we would hold each other's hand and be like, oh my God, that's Alexa. Just this joy of this baby and just so much. And then I was nursing her one day and it felt so tender. I was like, I wonder if I'm pregnant. And sure enough, I was pregnant with Brooke.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
So here he used to send me these emails, you know, back when that's how you dated.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I was very cultured. My dad and mom are really bright and very sophisticated. They're also really serious. They are not one for tomfoolery, right? So like they're serious people and they love art. Deeply, deeply love art. And so I grew up with lots of art, lots of discussions about art, and that religion is bullshit, but art is what is inspiring and igniting.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
Josh, on the other hand, he had never been to an art museum before, so he says. I'm like, you've never been on a school field trip to the art museum? And he's like, not that I remember. Josh was constantly burping. I wasn't even allowed to use the word fart. It would be passing gas.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I think that there was some worry about our different backgrounds, and especially that he didn't go to college, which was a value for my parents.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
We went on a trip to Napa. Yeah, I mean, this is our... This is us getting married. Like he would leave me cute notes, like on a banana. Let's never split, I'm bananas for you.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
It was a very, very stable, successful business. He had a huge office and staff that loved him. And he was just, he worked really hard. Really, really hard. I would visit him at work and just be like, my husband's a big shot.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
It was a very, very old-fashioned marriage. And I was fine with that. Like, I'm not... Josh would say, okay, you're getting a new car. I wouldn't even know, I wouldn't even care what color the car was, what make the car is. He made those decisions and I kept a happy home.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
Then the recession happened. It was definitely stressful. I mean, it was definitely stressful. And at that point, Josh was crying in the shower because he had to fire people.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I was worried about money. But my parents' advice to me was like, he is your husband. He is getting beaten up at work. your job is to make him feel like a king and blow up his balloon so he can rise to the occasion and be the best, know that like everyone else can tear him down, but his wife believes in him. So I really took that seriously. And it wasn't, I wasn't lying.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
Like I really believed in him and I really believed that he was brilliant and this was gonna be a setback and this was part of our story.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
The best thing that ever happened in my life is when you became my husband.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
There was a woman that started to work with him. She was very sexy and I had a bad feeling about it. I didn't like it. I knew something was amiss. He kept on saying that it was crazy, it was crazy, it was crazy. And it was like New Year's Day and we had friends over and he asked me to get his phone.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
He was supposed to leave the next day on a business trip with her and I felt so uncomfortable about it. And I picked up his phone. There was a text from her saying, I want to fuck you so hard right now. And I was just, I couldn't believe it. I just couldn't believe it. Like my whole world just upended in that moment, that one sentence. And I came out and I was just broken.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
You've brought me more joy than I ever realized was possible. I've never felt more happy or satisfied than when you're near me. You're the best husband, father, partner, and friend, and I love you more each day.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I was completely broken. Like, are you kidding me? Like, we have sex. I love you. I'd do anything for you. I'm not making you feel bad. You're doing everything for you. Why? Why? And he just killed me.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I did go to therapy at that point. And I was angry and I was hurt and I didn't know what to do. And my kids were little, like they were little. I didn't want to divorce him. Like I didn't want to be like separate and like I dropped them off at your house. Like I didn't want it. And we'd agreed that we were going to work on our marriage.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
And my therapist at the time, she said, like, at some point, Cami, like, you can't punish him. Like, you're going to have to decide if you're going to stay with him, you're not going to live in the past anymore. And you're going to have to, at some point, at some point, I don't care where it is, you're going to have to move forward or divorce him.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
Either choice is totally fine, but just make the choice. And I made the choice to, like, I didn't trust him, but I was working towards it. And so he would say to me all the time, like, do you trust me 70 percent? Do you trust me 80 percent? Like, this went on for a really long time. And then, like, years later, I wrote him a Valentine's Day card and said, I trust you 100 percent.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
It was so exciting. Like we ended up. selling this company to a company that I think it was sold for like $10 million or something like that, which is amazing, right? Like totally amazing. There's nothing to sneeze about, right? Not only did he sell it for that, he got shares to a company that was potentially valued at a billion dollars. It was so exciting. Like it just, I was so proud of him.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
Like he did it. He did it. You know, he really was able to create this. It was incredible.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I have a dream log in my phone because I would write down my dreams. So I would say I was having the same reoccurring nightmare about having a tampon, bad tampon dream. I know this is gross, so I hope you're not eating, but like that I would have a tampon in, I would pull it out and there'd be another one. I'd have a tampon in and they'd pull it out and there'd be another one.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
And I think that it was feeling polluted from the inside out, but there was something, it was so dirty. The whole thing was dirty.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
In the difficult times, my love for you has gotten more deep and solid than I could have ever imagined. This is all because when we faced trouble, we faced it together. I have such faith and trust in you that have made me feel like we can conquer it all. I never felt more like a partner. I love you all over again, but it's different somehow. It's like we grew up this year.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
It's like going into a crowded room where you know it's not in your head, you're the subject of gossip. They were gallivanting around because they were the hosts.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I can truly feel how proud we are together with so many people would have fallen apart. I love you so much and I look forward to walking into our future with new eyes and new strength. Happy anniversary. I'm gonna throw up listening to that, okay? But like here's like, this just makes me sick. Now I look back on this, it's like pathetic. I'm pathetic. Like I'm a loser.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
Like I just look at it as like I'm pathetic. I can't explain it. It just makes me mad at myself a little bit.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
If I were to actually think back on my childhood, I have such like John Hughes vibes. My childhood was very 80s traditional.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I kept a diary. And so when I look at my diary, I was filled with teenage angst. Every day I would write like my weight on like the top and be like, I hate my body.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
became very heavy in college. So even though I had, you know, all of these, like, nice memories, in retrospect, when I think about college, I was really just very, you know, sad about my weight.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
My first and second semester at Syracuse were awful. I had a 1.7 and a 1.9. I have not told my kids that. So if they're listening to this, yeah, guys, mom's a fraud. It wasn't even like I was a big drinker because I've never been a big drinker. I've never been a pothead. Like I've just never been, you know – It was more probably laziness. I wasn't fitting in any of my clothes.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I was gaining so much weight. I just don't think I wanted even to put on clothes.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
When somebody walks into my house, I want it to feel like a hug from the world. The world can be stressful, but this is a place of good music, good food, where you break a dish in my house and you celebrate.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
Today, if you got a 1.7 and a 1.9, you couldn't go to law school. And I still ended up going to law school. You could blow it academically and be fine. I really loved law school. I didn't really see myself as somebody who was that smart. I could write. I could always write. It was a natural fit because it's a lot of writing.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I would listen to really aggressive music in my car. Limp Bizkit, Korn, you know, Metallica, to try to find that in me, because my dad would say, a client needs to see that someone's fighting for their behalf. I was friendly with everyone, and then I would say to my dad, you know what? I'm getting results almost easier than you are. Like, you're preparing like a lunatic and fighting.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I am going out to dinner with everybody and talking to people and telling my client's story. And we're not even, I'm getting results that like my dad would be scratching his head like, how did you get probation on that? And I'd be like, I just told everybody. We just had a conversation.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
The restaurant was beautiful, big, luxurious. But I couldn't wait to get out. I mean, like, I was ready to go out. It was a Saturday night, and, like, I was probably leaving to go somewhere else. My brother invited Josh.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
Josh has always been big. He was a heavy guy. Very heavy. He was probably not nearly at his heaviest there. I didn't mind a heavy guy at all. I kind of liked a meatier guy because it made me feel small. But he was cute. He had a handsome face. He was very personable. Likeable. As likeable as they got. He was my younger brother's friend, so I didn't really think of him as potential.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
Josh left that dinner and said to my brother, I know as sure as I know my name, I'm going to marry your sister. And my brother was like, you're not going to touch my sister. And then my brother called me and was like, that kid that was at dinner said he's going to marry you. And I was like, he doesn't have a shot. First of all, I was a lawyer at that point. He never went to college.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
He was like a big drinker and a partier. I'm like not at all. A couple weeks after that, I was out to dinner on another date, and the check came, and Josh was at the restaurant, and he wrote that my date got the bill, and it said on the bill, taken care of by Cammie's future husband.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
This went on for two years. So I would see like his friends out and they would be like, oh, that's Josh's future wife. It was just a great story. Like I was literally like called all my friends up like, you're not going to believe this. But I really, I don't remember giving it much thought other than that's flattering.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
My mom stayed home because she was so sad that I didn't have a boyfriend over dinner.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
All of my friends were married. I was a bridesmaid every single weekend. I followed a lot of good friends. I was a bridesmaid every weekend. I was feeling really pathetic. So I was definitely feeling A, like a loser, and B, pressured to get married.
Infamous
From Conned to Cupid I Part 1
I kissed him that night. He had a party back at his house after. And I was also a flirt. So he remembers it that I went and I kissed him more back at the house and was like, I'll be back later. And I never came back and he waited for me all night. So, but he called me right after that. We moved in together two weeks later.