Kat Van Buren

So the reason I feel this is, I mean, we've talked before how we have like friends for different seasons and different reasons and all of that.

You don't have to have a falling out for a friendship to just grow apart.

Not even your friendships.

And I think that is like, we actually got another question that maybe we can answer at the same time that said, how do you and I handle our friendship and keep our friendship when we're in such different stages of life?

So I think that kind of goes together.

But I think when you're growing distant from a friend that you don't want to grow distant from, I mean, I don't know the context of this person, but in my life, what I have tried to implement is if I notice that there is some shift in the friendship,

I explore it.

Like I reach out and I try to connect to that person.

And if there is something that has happened, then we talk about it.

And if that person doesn't respond and we just find it harder and harder to like connect and be with each other, then there's a grieving process.

And I try to also hold that how you're saying nothing is permanent.

Right now, we might be growing distant, but who knows?

In two years, we might reconnect in some way.

We might be brought together again in some way.

And I felt this from friends that

When you share certain like friends that you work with or friends that you go to the same gym with or friends that you do something that kind of like automatically keeps you connected.

Right.

It's really easy to to disconnect from those friends when then you have to put in all the effort.

And sometimes that effort is is not manageable.

And I don't mean that in like a they're not worth it.