Kat Van Buren

And I try to also hold that how you're saying nothing is permanent.

Right now, we might be growing distant, but who knows?

In two years, we might reconnect in some way.

We might be brought together again in some way.

And I felt this from friends that

When you share certain like friends that you work with or friends that you go to the same gym with or friends that you do something that kind of like automatically keeps you connected.

Right.

It's really easy to to disconnect from those friends when then you have to put in all the effort.

And sometimes that effort is is not manageable.

And I don't mean that in like a they're not worth it.

It just isn't.

I don't know who I heard this from, probably Blake Bleckenbecker, who is a therapist and she specializes in friendship.

She was saying how we only have the capacity for like five or six deep friendships at a time.

And I think it's helpful to remember that when we are worried about keeping all of our connections as strong as they've always been all the time.

that you only have the capacity for five or six.

And so other friendships might become distant, but that doesn't mean that they're gone.

It doesn't mean I have to write this person off.

And I'm thinking of friendships that have kind of faded that have been those situational friendships.

I don't want it to feel like those were not as important, but sometimes those situations are what bonds you versus you have this bond with Andrea that is very different.

Like you have life.