Kat Van Buren

Right.

So we connected on different things.

Yeah.

So I think it's probably harder to maintain that for people when you your friendship starts because you're in the same stage, which I've felt that with friends that have gotten married before I was married or had kids before I was had kids is our our friendship is based off of us being in the same place and doing the same things and being able to

you know, do whatever we want, whenever we want.

And then when that changes, the dynamic changes, but our dynamic was always different.

You would ask.

Check in.

I had to do that recently.

I'm not sure if I'm going with the wind yet, but check in.

You're still fighting it?

You're still fighting that wind?

Yeah.

Well, I had felt the distance, and so I did a check in.

And this is where I think also we have to have boundaries.

And I said it's important to also be prepared to grieve something, too, is I did the check in.

I got a response and now my game plan is like, see what happens if that response matches with the action.

So I'm seeing if I need to go with the wind or if the friendship is going to pick back up.

And if I have to go with the wind, then I'll have to probably grieve that.

That sucks.