Kat Van Buren

But you would talk about it within your other close friends.

Yeah, I was going to say it feels kind of – and maybe it's just because we don't do it.

It feels weird and it feels unnecessary to announce that.

But also, I guess you could say that about –

Yeah.

That's like double silent.

It's like, I can't even talk about it because it just was the natural progression of our divorce versus something happened between y'all.

Well, that's actually really good advice.

I'm glad you brought that up.

Because for the person that wrote the question about what do I do about a friendship growing distant,

Part of the check in is checking out like because the more distance happens, what we do is we make up stories of what happened.

So checking in and making sure there isn't a story that somebody has in their head or you didn't do something that somebody just didn't realize they did.

So then that could be the thing that fixes the distance that like, oh, that's not true.

I'm so glad we talked about this.

Now we can go on like normal versus being silent and continuing those stories for the rest of time.

And then the stories get even worse and worse and worse and worse.

Yeah.

So thanks for saying that.

It felt good to talk about.

I think that's where you stay on your side where I feel this.