Kate Legge

Our oldest son was about to enter year 12 and I just didn't want to let a bomb go off in the household.

And is that why he told you in the garage?

Do you think so?

Oh, so no one else would hear, yes.

So no one else would hear in the house.

It was to spare your kids witnessing your distress.

Did you have any inkling this was coming?

I had no inkling whatsoever.

I felt like I was dumb, deaf and blind.

I had no idea.

And it was with a friend of mine who I'd made a new friend in Melbourne and I was very close to.

We'd gone on...

You know, we started off having dinners together and going on picnics together, often picking our children up from the same sporting events.

And we even had a holiday together down at the Great Ocean Road about three weeks before I was hit with the bad news.

So that was also a very hard thing because I felt a sense of betrayal from both sides and I really felt like nobody had thought or considered me.

I think when you're married that long, I think your personalities blend into each other to such an extent you can't even really...

fully understand how much you blend together.

You can't even see it because you're in the middle of it so much.

So when he said that to you, how did that kind of feel in your body, I suppose?

Did you have a kind of a visceral reaction?