Kate Legge

A visceral reaction, yes.

It's just complete shock.

You have this pounding of heart and the coursing of your blood through your veins.

It really feels like you've driven through a plate glass window that you didn't really know was there until you're suddenly peeking out the shards of glass from your hair.

Yeah.

Is it like that or do you also feel sort of untethered from something?

Totally untethered, totally untethered.

And because it was a shock, it's that shock, it's that visceral reaction of shock first, I think, before the emotions start to flow.

And it was devastating.

But because I had to really soldier on and because I had a child going into year 12, I really just had to pull myself together.

And we both made a decision that we would try and work things out.

And he made all sorts of promises about how he was going to behave in the future and

You know, it was a tough couple of years, but we struggled forward.

And I must say, I resisted his request to go to counselling at first.

I thought that actually he needed a bit of a crash course in honesty.

And why did I need to do anything?

That was my initial reaction.

And it was only the second episode of the infidelity that I really tried to get a grip on what had happened and understand things from his perspective.

Was it just this one affair or had there been others?

No, there'd been others and that was before he came back, before we agreed to work it out, I asked him to come clean so that I wouldn't stumble over any more dead bodies.