Kathleen Glasgow
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166 appearances
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard Jan 2025
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And I don't think that we talk enough about the mental health of those people who are collateral damage of addiction. The people who are watching this happen, who are trying to help someone who can't help them, who desperately want, especially for Emmy, she desperately wants to figure out who she is and to have a life. But she feels guilty about it.
Because how can you have fun thinking about wanting to go to a dance when your brother...
is struggling so much and going through all this stuff and and we don't I don't think we talk enough about that guilt that people feel and it is really about like in the end figuring out what boundaries you're going to set like I love you and I can support you but also I have to go live a life and do these things that I want to do I can't make it all about you I can't
figure out where you are all the time i can't sit with you all the time i can't make sure you're safe all the time at some point all of that is it's up to you i'm just here for when you fall do you know and i and that's really hard for people to express because they feel they do they feel guilty but it really it ravages you like especially i think kids who are in families that that
have been ravaged by addiction, that is so difficult to grow up with. And it affects all the patterns of how you learn how to behave with other people and how you let other people treat you. And those are things that when you grow up later, if you do find a support system, you have to unravel and you have to start all over again and actually learn how to be a person without those other things.
And it's so difficult. I don't know if that makes sense or not.
Yes. And that's so, it's so hard. What, like going back to grief and how to make friends with the dark. When I went on tour for that, I met this student at a school and he pulled me aside afterwards. And he said, I read this book and I don't know. I think that what I'm feeling in this book is what I'm feeling in life, but I'm not really sure. And I was like, what's going on?
And he said, so my dad has this traumatic brain injury.
TBI and he's like it happened like two years ago and he just the only thing he can do now is like sit in a chair and watch TV and I miss that guy who would hang out with me and like play sports and like talk to me I don't know who he is and he's like I feel like he's dead but he's not he's alive and I said you are feeling grief you're feeling grief for someone who's alive your dad is a different person now and you have to get to know
that person and absolutely everything that you're feeling is grief and it is valid. And he told me that He was so he'd been so angry like the week before that he went outside with a baseball bat and bashed in the windshield of the car that his dad had loved and used to take him for drives in but couldn't anymore. And he's like, I feel so bad about that.
And I said, I'm glad you did it because at least you weren't hurting yourself. But you have something that you need to express. And that's OK.
And, like, you grieve people who are alive. You grieve the person that they used to be that you knew. And you grieve the person that they might never become. Yeah.
And I, you know, at this book, because I've been in recovery now for almost 18 years, and I really wanted people to read about the recovery process, that it's not linear.
that you climb a little bit up the ladder and sometimes you slip down and when that person slips down it's not a failure it's a you start over and the people around them need to be safe say okay let's start again the road hasn't disappeared we're just going back to the beginning of the road and we're going to start walking again like together we you can this can happen
Like, there's a lot of shame surrounding addictions. And like I said, people often don't ask, like, what happened to you? They're just like, why are you doing this? As though it's something that can be, like, fixed. And it's like, no, no, there's something that happened. There's something going on. And you need to get to the root of that first.
I think that's so like, I think that's a really profound thing that they said to you. I mean, and it, We don't really know our parents. You only know them as your parent and what they show you and maybe what they choose to tell you about their childhood or their experiences in life before you came along. You don't really know what their life was.
And like that kind of blows my mind now that I am a parent. If you don't know them, they're actually like people. They're not just this person. You know, I'm not just this person that tells you it's time to study for your quiz.
You know. Like I've had this whole lifetime of experiences and maybe you feel this way, too. I think it's interesting because like you've been public about like your experiences, like you've been in the public eye since you were a teenager. So people think they know you and the things that happen to you and your kids can probably Google you. Right. Yeah.
And they'll be like, wait, that happened to my mom. Like what? What is going on? Right. Yeah. And my kids can do that to me, too. And they could see things that I've said in interviews that maybe I haven't yet, like, chatted with them about. Or because you have this public persona. Most parents don't have that.
So anything that happened to them, like, can stay buried unless their kid actually says, I need to know what growing up was like for you. What happened to you? What happened to you?
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