Kati Morton

I'd be so excited if my dad got to come.

And he'd always say he could come, but then work would hold him over and he wouldn't be able to fly home in time.

It's tricky when your parents are away.

All the time, in so many different ways too.

That's why it's important for us to realize what our blueprint is and what things happened in our life.

I also think it's helpful, or for me, I should say, it was helpful to look at my grandmother and my mother and how the women interacted in my family too, because that shows the way that women's behavior was modeled for me.

And all of that, whether people want to admit it or not, there's a reason a lot of us say, oh my God, I sound just like my father or my mother or I'm doing the same thing because we keep acting out in that same way.

We have that blueprint and we go out into the world and we look for somebody else who feels very comfortable.

Notice I didn't say healthy, but they feel comfortable because it's what we're used to.

And so even as uncomfortable as it was growing up, having my dad not there, that became familiar.

That became what I was used to.

I knew what it was like to have someone let me down and to say they were going to show up and not.

And so unfortunately, yeah, I dated a lot of guys who'd be like, yeah, I'll be there.

And then they wouldn't.

And I would get so pissed and be so frustrated.

But as my therapist said, it's mainly with myself because I picked a partner who couldn't show up for me again.

because that's what I grew up with.

The truth about it is we, as adults, we look back on our childhood with all of this intelligence, all of this experience, and all of that is something that only time could teach, right?

We didn't know that when we were younger, and it's hard for us to remember what it was like to be

six, seven, eight years old.