Kati Morton

I think just like anything, in moderation is great.

Like you said, I wouldn't want someone to be at the airport either.

Like that, to me, that's not a kind person that would just leave someone, right?

However, the behaviors I'm talking about aren't just one-offs or I'm being kind.

It's like, this is the only way I know how to be.

Meaning that like,

I need to be needed.

And if no one needs anything from me, I don't know how to relax.

Or if I can't be of use to someone, whether it's work, whether it's school, whether it's friendships, whether it's kids, you know, family, if nobody is needing of me, I don't know who I am.

Does that make sense?

It's like it's a deeper thing.

It's like instead of it being just I'm being a good person and I want to show up for people because I believe we all should do that.

And that's what that builds healthy relationships, having people you can count on.

However, when that comes at the cost of our own health, of our own well-being time and time again, that's when it's a problem.

Yeah, then it gets in the way of you being able to do anything else that you want to do, right?

Or ways to take care of yourself.

We all have things we love to do, hobbies that we want to spend time in, like I love to read.

And so if I'm always doing for other people, then I'm not going to have any quiet time for myself to do that.

And we have to make sure that it's a balance between filling our own cup and filling other people's.

I kind of love that analogy in general, like you can't pour from an empty cup because it's so like visual.