Kati Morton

I provide.

Well, I wanted time with my dad.

I honestly could have cared less if I had the newest shoes, I would have rather seen him and spent time.

And so I thought in order to get him to stay home more often, I had to do everything perfectly and really hustle to get him there and to keep him there.

So that was my blueprint.

It wasn't because my dad's a bad guy or was trying to harm me, but I thought that because of that behavior and the things that I saw, that then I really had to hustle to get more attention.

And so I just give that as an example that all of us have these blueprints.

We have these kinds of patterns of behavior from childhood.

And if I didn't know that's where my perfectionism, my people pleasing, me feeling like I had to hustle to earn someone's attention and worth,

If I didn't know where that came from, then I wouldn't really know how to undo it.

Because it's like we can't... I like to think of it like a weed.

And maybe it's because I was raised on a farm.

Like a weed, if you just snip the top, it'll grow back, right?

So if I just try to curb that behavior where I'm like, don't do everything just perfectly.

Turn it in, Katie.

Send it.

Send the email.

But that doesn't actually...

undo the main reason why i feel that urge if that makes sense it's like i need to pull it out from the root and if we understand that blueprint that's like seeing the root seeing where it grew from so that we can actually dig down and we can rip it out i don't know if that makes sense or if that's too

Same for me.