Kati Morton

I'm on YouTube.

All of my social media is just Katie Morton, K-A-T-I-M-O-R-T-O-N.

I have a podcast called Ask Katie Anything that comes out on Thursdays as well.

And I have three books.

They're sold wherever you find your books.

Are You Okay is my first book.

Traumatized is my second and my third that we talked about today.

Why Do I Keep Doing This is available, again, wherever you purchase your books.

Thank you for having me.

My pleasure.

we'll explore why relationship chaos is rarely random how attachment patterns become embedded in our nervous systems and why so many people unknowingly recreate the same relationship dynamics throughout their lives our family of origin maps out how we are going to function so our caregivers train us to understand are people going to care about us and meet our needs or are we not worthy of that or are we not in a system where people have the capacity to care for each other

and there's different ways that we can split from that.

I think it was the novel Anna Karenina where she said at the beginning, the author says, happy families are all exactly the same, but each unhappy family is unhappy and unique in their own similar, in their own special way.

And that's what we're finding is you can have a lot of dysregulated families that map out to a lot of dysregulation, but there's only really one healthy pathway with variants, but one healthy pathway towards secure families that build real lasting connection.

The most common, I can't take credit for this quote, but lighting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

Essentially, you know what your needs are, but you meet someone else's first.

I find that incredibly common.

Thanks for having me.

I'm excited to be here.

like me saying yes when I mean no because I don't want to hurt someone's feelings or I want to please someone, make sure they're happy first.