Kati Morton

I mean, the first like knee-jerk answer to like, why don't I just stop is because it feels uncomfortable and because I don't think about it.

It's a knee-jerk reaction.

But deeper than that, it's,

And I talk to my patients all the time about this.

I'm like, in order to stop this outside symptom, right?

I like to think of our issues as kind of like trees.

And for me to just stop saying sorry would be like trimming some leaves off of the end.

But that doesn't actually eradicate the tree or get rid of this problem.

It just trims a little bit of it, but there's still a lot there.

And so in order for me to actually be able to stop saying sorry when I don't mean to and to be like, you can take up space, Katie.

This is ridiculous.

I have to get to the root.

I have to figure out where it comes from.

And the truth for me, I mean, this is like kind of spoilers for the book, but not really, because it's every person's on their own journey.

Mine is that I thought, or I believe deeply that I have to earn my worth.

And I know you're like, how does that connect?

It connects in the fact that if we think about like, I feel like I'm a second rate person, like other people's needs come ahead of mine.

That means that in order for me to receive or accept love or attention, I have to earn it.

I have to do something for it.

I have to like pull myself out from the underdog role into the, you know, the leading role.