Kati Morton

It just comes up in a zillion different ways until I was honest with myself enough or had enough courage to admit that I just didn't think I was worth it and that that was a really terrible feeling.

But if I didn't work to build my confidence or build my confidence

I don't know if it's faith in self, but rightful place on this earth, just like everybody else.

If I didn't fight for that, it would keep coming up.

Lack of confidence is part of it.

It's worth.

Because if you think of like my belief of self is like that I have to hustle to earn my worth.

I have to prove to you that I'm worthy of your attention or affection or whatever.

Then that means that I'm not good enough as I am.

Just straight up, just me.

And so part of that is confidence.

But for me, it was confidence and it was like self-talk, the way that I navigate conversations with myself.

And it goes back to, I think it's all confidence.

Even as I try to explain it and tease it out another way for you, I feel like that's what it is for me, is definitely confidence and self-worth.

And those are so inextricably linked that all of the things that I've done in therapy to get better come back to that.

Like talking to myself more kindly, not apologizing for taking up space,

The most common, and I use this, I don't, I can't take like credit for this quote, but lighting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm is probably the most common symptom.

And what I mean by that is that I find people tend to

do things for others ahead of their own self.

So let's say I really need to rest, but my sister needs me to get her from the airport and so I'm gonna stay up late and go get her or something.