Kati Morton

I know it's a random example, but it's essentially, you know what your needs are, but you meet someone else's first.

I find that to be incredibly common.

This could even look like, I have another member of my community who shared taking on extra work

within her job, even though she doesn't get paid more for it and other people could help out too, but she's always the one that does that or like taking extra shifts, you know, always being the one to fill in.

And a lot of us could say, well, that's because I'm reliable or that's because I do, you know, I like to be that person.

Sure, maybe.

Or is it because that's how you earn your worth?

Again, even though my issue sounds very specific, like, oh, I'm hustling to earn my worth, worth is a big piece, is a big motivator for our behavior.

And I think a lot of different people will do different things.

Like, that's why a lot of my friends who are mothers will do everything for their children because they put a lot of worth, a lot of their identity is in being the best mother ever.

And so, even if they're not doing great, they'll make sure that their child has everything, you know?

And as sad as it is to say, it's like we're leading by example, then the blueprint for their children is that mom's needs don't exist and only kids' needs exist.

I'd be curious for you, Mike, if you find yourself in any situation like this where you have behaviors you don't like that are repetitive that kind of go down to,

it's all about balance.

I think just like anything, in moderation is great.

Like you said, I wouldn't want someone to be at the airport either.

Like that, to me, that's not a kind person that would just leave someone, right?

However, the behaviors I'm talking about aren't just one-offs or I'm being kind.

It's like, this is the only way I know how to be.

Meaning that like,