Katie

When we first met, we only dated two months before I became pregnant.

During that quick dating stage, before I became pregnant, we were sexually intimate numerous times, and I would initiate on multiple occasions.

After I became pregnant, it was kind of like the light switch flipped a little bit.

Sex no longer interested me and I didn't really care to be touched.

This over the years became the number one issue in our marriage.

I would start to feel pressured and would finally work myself up to having sex.

During this time, on multiple occasions, I woke up to my husband having intercourse with me while I was asleep.

The last instance happening four years ago.

And I just want to know how I can work towards rebuilding that intimate relationship with him and also earning, gaining trust back with him and just not feeling like I have to work myself up to be intimate with my husband.

Yeah.

And that's... Hold on.

I think just from this instance, it just has made it to where things that I should just be able to talk about, you know, naturally, I have really am careful about what I ask or I'm afraid to ask them not to.

I don't know.

It's just, yeah, I'm afraid to ask very simple things that I feel like shouldn't be that big of a deal.

And I do go, and for the past two years, I've seen a counselor.

So I can remember, because honestly, I'd never, until that point, I'd never opened up about that with anyone.

And so, like I said, the last instance was four years, but I mean, even before that.

So a lot of years have passed since the very first instance.

I said it.

We kind of talked about it.