Katie

Essentially, yes.

I'm really battling a lot with how I'm defining love.

This is the first relationship I've had that's even lasted this long.

And what I value so much about it is this feeling of safety.

And I know you've talked about this before.

I know you can relate to it.

This is the first relationship where I really have felt that from the jump and just this very ease of trust.

I'm very comfortable.

I'm very content.

I don't want to see him go.

I don't have that like excitement.

Right.

I don't know how to, what do, what?

I just wonder what level of questioning is healthy or not.

a committed relationship is there always this little bit of questioning like would it be better in a different relationship or are you just always certain no this is my person and i would never want to try with someone else you first have to figure out whether this is again when i kind of joked and suspected that this is a you problem but that is a big question is this a you problem or is this a him problem if he is doing or not doing things

That makes sense.

I think it's both.

I guess just love language stuff.

No, he's always receptive.

There's just not a lot of follow through.