Katriona O'Sullivan

Now, my brother has a different story.

He just pretends it didn't happen.

So I hide everything from him.

He's not on my social media.

Like, it's really trying to... But you still have a relationship.

with him despite you going ahead and doing this.

But there is resentment from my siblings.

There is resentment from my siblings.

I wouldn't have written the book if my mother was alive.

Wouldn't you?

No, no, absolutely not.

Because she wouldn't have wanted me to and I would have respected that for her because of the things that are in it about her.

So my dad probably would have continued, but my mum, I wouldn't have done it to her.

But it would have hurt my mum for people to know and for me to have said that outwardly, even if I did paint them in a really nuanced light, it still would have hurt her.

And I just wouldn't have liked to have hurt her in that way.

Yeah.

Now, the thing to remember, Claire, like even in your own case, if you do decide to do it and maybe there is family that don't want you to do it or like memoir isn't fact.

Memoir is your reconstruction of an experience.

I'm not telling my brother's experience or my sister's experience or even my parents and honestly if I'd have written this book 20 years ago it would have been a completely different story.

Because how I've changed, how I see the world changes and how I can articulate myself has changed.